Forget new year's resolutions. Do this instead.
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New Year's resolutions, a new year and a new you, a restart, a refresh, a debugging, we've heard it all before! And yet despite our best efforts, many of us simply don't have the time or patience for something as important as self-improvement. Because despite our talents for procrastination, deep down we want to improve, else why would the concept be so popular?
The problem lies with how we approach our own self-improvement. We set an arbitrary date on when we should be doing it rather than simply doing it. And therein lies the biggest problem with NEW YEAR's Resolutions, it's already a can kicked down the road.
The importance of self-improvement
Despite the relative popularity of new year's resolutions, recognising that we have areas to improve upon is vital. But the obsession of January 1st representing the perfect opportunity to make those changes is arbitrary at best. Generally speaking, the characteristics we hope to improve are represented by somewhat vague goals.
Eating healthier, exercising more, losing weight or spending more time with friends and family, The problem is, most of us know what happens next. At first, we're fired up. But by mid-February, we become disillusioned. That new gym membership we promised ourselves we would commit to is becoming increasingly difficult to stick to. And once we've fallen back into our old routine, we feel as though we've failed ourselves. At that point, we're back to square one once again. "NEXT year, I'll make that change."
This is simply unsustainable!
It's not just about setting achievable goals
They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Does this sound familiar? New Year's Resolutions are built upon a foundation of guilt rather than motivation. The idea is that you're flawed in some way and that the only option is to make significant changes in a short period of time.
But if you're serious about making those changes then the first thing you need to understand is that January 1st represents nothing more than a social phenomenon you're trying to adhere to. Break the mould and start simple.
Try a different approach
Manifesting or creating the things that you want in your life has to start with knowing what you want first.
Follow these easy steps:
STEP 1
Write down 3 things that are easy to attain, eg. short-term goals
Example:
- Update my CV - if you are unhappy in your job start with your CV
- Call 3 friends that I haven't spoken to in a while
- Sign up for 3 trial exercises classes
STEP 2
Write down 3 things that are more out of your reach, eg. long-term goals
Example:
- Abundantly wealthy
- Optimal health and fitness
- Happiness
Now create a vision board, set aside 4-5 hours where you find pictures of what you want from your lists. Place these images digitally in a collage or physically cut pictures out and stick on a piece of cardboard. This is a great exercise to do with family or with your kids.
Now look at this board and read your list every day when you wake up.
Sounds simple but this methodology helps to disconnect the emotional connection to your manifestation, it also helps to keep the focus on the end goal. You will need to let go of the way these things will manifest and try to recognise how these things come to you. Don't ignore the signs along the way.
Give it a try and don't overthink the process...
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Author: Bryce Anderson
